In the past two weeks, the living room, hallway, dining room and
steps leading upstairs have become storage space for about 1,000
pounds in donations.
This weekend, Grisar will deliver them to the poor who live in
mountain villages outside Puerto Plata, a city in the Dominican
Republic. The Spanish-speaking nation of about 8 million people sits
in the West Indies, between Haiti and the U.S. territory of Puerto
Rico.
Grisar still is looking for cash donations to buy blankets and
undergarments when she arrives and help pay for the roughly $1,500
shipping costs.
"They're such happy people," Grisar said. "They have so little,
yet they have so much happiness."
The effort began two days after returning from a Thanksgiving
getaway to the Caribbean island with her husband, Bob.
The Grisars, who like to explore local culture when they travel,
booked a tour of the mountain villages.
Taken by the barefooted, cheerful children, Pat shared candy and
nuts with them as her husband snapped pictures.
Their smiles aren't all that the couple remembered. They couldn't
forget the extreme poverty of the villages, where homes are
thatched-roof shacks with dirt floors, and children work and go to
school in shifts.
"My wife has always been a problem-solver," Bob said. "A lot of
people want to help, but they don't know how to take the lead."
Bob set up a Web site within four days of returning home. Pat
established the Rainbow Families Foundation, applied for nonprofit
status and opened a checking account so she could make a donation.
Then began the "professional begging," as Bob affectionately
called it.
Pat knocked on doors, posted fliers and asked for help from
businesses she frequents. The morning after a visit from Pat,
10-year-old neighbor Gabriela Pineda asked her principal to allow a
school collection, which received a fast, warm response.
Within 10 days, a half-ton of donations were gathered.
Pat spent Friday sorting, washing and folding clothing that
filled several boxes and more than 20 large garbage bags.
She held up a tiny pair of blue crocheted pants, giggling at the
thought of the child who soon would wear them.
She shows photos from the Thanksgiving trip with an almost
parental pride, telling a story with each picture.
"They've captured my heart, and I want to go back," Pat said.
A Dominican Republic official will help Pat deliver the
donations. When working out plans, she asked him what else the
community needed.
Blankets, an ambulance and body bags, she was told. Strong storms
and hurricanes bring large death tolls among the mountain villagers.
One reason the Grisars were so touched is they can relate. Both
grew up in poverty.
Pat, 42, was one of 10 children raised in a small town near
Columbus, where their home did not have an indoor toilet until she
was 12. Her mother did not have modern heating installed until 1984,
when Pat's father died. He had cut firewood from woods nearby to
warm their home.
Today, Bob has a high-paying job with a Virginia-based company
that re-engineers and manufactures parts for military equipment, and
Pat helps him. The couple have no children and live in an well-to-do
Kirtland neighborhood.
Each of them broke the poverty cycle — "How can a man interview
for a job, if he doesn't own a pair of pants?" Bob asked — something
the Grisars hope they can help the villagers to do.
Pat's resolve to help was so successful they gave their living
room furniture to charity to create space for the donations.
In place of the furniture is clean clothing for all ages, in tall
piles on the floor. Ten big boxes of crayons are stacked next to a
big box of school supplies.
On Friday, the first seven steps upstairs were blocked off by
bulging shopping bags of clothing.
In the dining room were games and toys, a giraffe poking his
friendly head out of a garbage bag. About a dozen canes and
nutrient-packed drinks were stacked nearby. Pat's dentist also
donated 100 toothbrushes.
One of the most moving gifts came from a widower in southern
Ohio. His wife died of cancer 10 years ago, Pat said.
"He asked me to come and go through her room, because he hadn't
had the heart to do it," Pat said.
Among the woman's beautiful clothing, Pat found wigs she had worn
during her illness. Pat then remembered a shy woman in one of the
villages, who watched the world outside from within her shack. The
woman, who looked as though she had been burned, wore a tattered
wig.
Pat's plan is to surprise the villagers, who celebrate Christmas
but cannot afford gifts.
She will travel alone, spending the holidays without her family.
It would cost too much for her husband to go, too.
The Grisars smiled at each other and laughed when asked about
being apart for Christmas.
"This is more important to us than spending a day together," Bob
said.
"Just this year, we'll be together in spirit," Pat said.
To learn more or to make a donation, log on to
rainbow-families.org, e-mail Pat at pgrisar@rainbowfamilies.org. You also can deliver a donation
to the Grisar home, 8543 Hemlock Ridge, Kirtland, within the Regency
Woods subdivision on Kirtland-Chardon Road